Ready to Intensify Your Relationships This Cancer Season? Get Ready to Go Deep!
Cancer Season at a Glance
After the social energy of Gemini, you might find yourself craving time at home during Cancer season. If the energy of Gemini resembles a social butterfly, Cancers represent a wise, nurturing soul. Cancers are water sings and intuitive and sensitive by nature. Many people are uncomfortable or even scared by their deepest feelings, however, Cancer signs are not among them. To form a relationship with a Cancer, you’ll first need to develop a solid relationship with yourself. Often the best way to get to know your true self is to be where you feel the most at peace, understood, accepted, and relaxed. Take a moment to feel what place is calling you. That may or may not be home, but wherever it is, prioritize scheduling more quiet time in your sanctuary than normal.
For me, Cancers were always a mystery. As an Aries Sun Sign, I’ve noticed myself drawn to the calming energy that Cancers bring, but in the past, I’ve also been unsure how to connect with them. They felt out of reach, like a moon circling, subtly drawing my attention, but never getting too close. Interestingly, as I’ve become more in touch with who I am, my true self, and started living authentically, Cancers have started popping into my life. And, unlike in the past, I’m connecting with them in ways I never could before. To truly understand Cancers, you must understand the seriousness of the relationship they have with their own feelings.
The Two Sides of Cancers
Cancers are in touch with who they are, their emotions, and their feelings. They prefer deep, meaningful connections rather than surface-level, casual ones. Cancers are not the small talkers confidently mingling at the gathering, bouncing from group to group with ease. Cancers are the ones in the corner engaging in deep conversation. Maybe that conversation is with a dear friend, or possibly a new acquaintance that they see potential in. Either way, that conversation is not simply about the weather. They may circle the room at first, but only to ground themselves in the emotional energies of those present. They are skilled in this way, always capable of seeing past the words being said or the facade many portray, to the emotional undertone. Once they have a handle on the situation, they intentionally navigate accordingly.
However, since cancers are so in tune with their feelings and interested in demonstrating their true selves rather than hiding behind a facade, if a Cancer is feeling “off”, you’ll know. Emotions can’t always be good, and when a cancer is having a tough time, they aren’t interested in hiding it. That would be a misrepresentation of their self. Cancers can have the reputation as “moody”, but that is far too simplistic. They aren’t moody, they are simply being honest.
Three Ways to Deepen Connection This Season
To harness the power of Cancer this season, be intentional with whom you spend your time. Choose one of the suggestions below to prioritize this season and see how a relationship can blossom with some extra attention. Which connection will you choose to deepen this season?
Yourself
Before you can sincerely connect with others, you must connect with your deepest emotions. Deepening your understanding of yourself is the first step to surrounding yourself with more meaningful relationships.
Ways to do this include:
Journal- set aside 15 minutes per day to write about whatever is on your mind. You might surprise yourself when given the space to express yourself freely.
Meditate- Consistently sit in silence. What arises when the distractions have dropped away? Don’t get frustrated if meditation is challenging. Try again the next day. Have patience with yourself. The first step in deepening any relationship is learning to trust.
Inner Narrative- Be mindful of how you speak to yourself. Are you using kind words in your own mind? Are you talking to yourself the way you would talk to others? Or the way you would expect others to speak to you? If not, practice kindness with yourself this season.
2. Someone You Care About, Who Has Drifted
Is there someone you hold dear, but the connection has weakened? Reinvest in that relationship to bring them back into your life. Relationships such as these are worth fighting for, don’t let a special connection drift away. if you’ve noticed space between yourself and someone special, re-connect with them this season.
Write a card or letter- Such a small, but thoughtful act can turn anything around. Be sure it’s personalized and speaks from the heart. Be truthful and vulnerable with your words.
Pick up the phone- We get so caught up in our digital world, that sometimes we forget how easy it is to pick up the phone. A 15-minute conversation can mean all the difference when attempting to re-connect. So much more can be said with a call, rather than a text message.
Meet in person- Take them to lunch, meet up for dinner, or reconnect over something you loved doing with them in the past. There’s nothing as meaningful as sharing a good laugh and a warm embrace.
3. New Potential
Is there someone you’ve seen potential in, but currently you only have a surface-level relationship with? Dive in and see if they are worthy of your time. A new relationship can be rewarding in many ways. Maybe this person has entered your life for a meaningful reason. Try to find out this season! It might feel daunting to take that next step, so here are a few safe ways to dip your toes in the water before nvesting too much of your time and energy.
Invite them to coffee- This can be as short as a cup of coffee, or as long as the conversation takes you. If the conversation is going nowhere, you can leave as soon as your beverage is finished. If you’re feeling the spark, you can linger at a coffee shop for hours.
Go on a hike- There’s nothing like being outdoors to inspire conversation. And if the conversation just isn’t flowing, at least it wasn’t time wasted… you still got some exercise in!
Bring them out with another friend- Still unsure if you’re ready for some one-on-one time? Not a problem. Test the waters with another friend you know you’ll have an enjoyable time with. If this new person blends in nicely, you’ll be more confident in their future potential.
By the end of Cancer season, I hope you’ve found a bit more connection in your life. Maybe you are more in touch with your own emotions, needs, and true self. Maybe you’ve reconnected with someone important to you. Or maybe you’ve taken a new relationship to the next level. If you’ve seen progress in any of these areas, you’ve done right by Cancer season and by yourself!
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