Harmonize, Balance, and Improve Your Key Relationships This Libra Season
Learnings From Libra Season
While Virgo season brought grounding and organizing vibes, Libra brings us floaty and balancing energy. Ruled by air, those with a sun sign in this season may appear to be drifting through life without a care. They’re easygoing, comfortable, and able to move effortlessly between social groups. They get along with almost everyone and often bring others together, possibly even those who otherwise wouldn’t get along. Those vibrating with Libra energy are peacemakers and the connective tissue of many friend circles.
The symbol of a scale represents this sign signaling the strive for balance and harmony. Much like the air surrounding us, they are constant and reliable with a certain neutrality. Libras aren’t the ones stirring the pot, they’re the ones trying to settle it again. Life can’t always be smooth and bump-free, but Libras are driven and eager to bring things back to balance and peace.
However, with the strengths of a sign also come growth opportunities. A Libra vibrating at a lower frequency can be out of balance, seeking harmony once again but unsure how to return. Libras can give more than they expect in return, causing unrest inside them. At first, it may not be noticeable because they enjoy the act of giving, but with time, the scale will keep tipping in one direction getting heavier and heavier. This discomfort is a signal that balance is missing and action is required.
This season, as we harness the teachings of Libra season, take inventory of the current relationships in your life:
How are they serving you?
What state are they in?
Are they harmonious or do they need some re-balancing?
A solid relationship goes both ways, there should be an equal investment in time and energy given by you and returned to you from the other. Let’s go through the 3 key relationships in your life determining which to focus on this Libra season.
3 Relationships Worth Fighting For
Yourself - the first and most important relationship is the one with yourself. You can’t show up for anyone if you aren’t showing up in your own life. Keep a journal with you for 3 days and take notes on the following areas:
Thought Patterns: How do you talk to yourself? What thoughts are on an automatic loop in your head? Are you speaking with kindness, encouragement, patience, and love? Are you speaking to yourself the way you would to your friend?
Self Respect: How do you show your body respect? What foods and drinks are you consuming? Are you prioritizing movement and exercise? Do you have a nourishing morning or evening routine?
Personal Growth: Are you nurturing your mind? What books or podcasts are you reading? Have you created space each day for reflection? Are you excited each day or are you held down by a mundane routine? Are you using your time wisely or wasting free moments with social media rather than investing in yourself?
Everyone has room for growth. Once you habitualize prioritizing yourself, the domino effect will begin. If you start exercising, you’ll naturally be more aware of what you eat. If you start creating space in the day for quiet reflection, you’ll be drawn to things that excite your mind. Most importantly, you’ll begin to trust yourself again and respect yourself in a new, heightened way. Once you hold yourself accountable, you’ll naturally expect greatness from others.
Your Friends and Family - Some we’re born into, others we choose, but even with those we select it’s easy to fall into an obligatory relationship over time. As you review this list, notice which of these is true for you. Your body will often be the biggest indicator. As you read these, with which does your stomach tense up?
The Giver - Do you give more to them than they give to you? Are you feeling as if you’re playing the parent role (even if you’re the child)? Are you the nurturer or caregiver? Does it feel like you’re giving without receiving much in return? When catching up, are the questions back and forth or are they one-sided? Sure there may be moments when one person’s life requires more attention, but does that relationship remain one-sided or return back to equilibrium?
The Receiver - Are you the one taking more than giving? Self-awareness requires honesty and vulnerability. Reflect on your last few conversations with those you consider the most dear. Are you asking as many questions about the other’s life as they are about yours? Are you showing them respect and kindness? Are you consistently receiving help without offering assistance in return?
Whichever side of the equation you're currently on (and it could change based on the relationship), balance is within your reach with a little awareness and practice. If you relate more with the giver, expect more from those relationships and kindly request what you need. If you are the receiver, make a conscious effort to course correct. Remember, getting off-balance is natural, it’s how we find our way back that matters.
Your Partner - This most likely is the person who knows you at your best, but also your worst. We’re often the hardest on our partners because the mask we wear for the world comes off at home. If we aren’t able to be raw around those we share a home and bed with, we will never feel fully at peace. Your home must be your sanctuary, so if your relationship isn’t creating that environment for you, it’s time to prioritize this relationship. If this is your area of opportunity, try these exercises to reconnect with one another.
Connecting eyes - You’ll need quiet, uninterrupted time for this short, but intense exercise. Sit facing each other, close enough that you’re holding each other's hands and your faces are even with one another. Set the timer for 5 minutes. Now simply look into one another’s eyes, without talking, laughing, or breaking eye contact for the entirety of the 5 minutes. You can blink but stick with it. If 5 minutes feels too long, start with 3. You’ll be amazed at how connected you feel at the end. This might bring up emotions, tears, or start a conversation that has been harbored for far too long. All of this is helpful, starting the path towards reconnection.
Vision board - Grab a handful of magazines, some poster board, and a glue stick. Choose a topic, such as: “How we want our house to look” or “our next vacation” or “pictures representative of our love”. Then individually cut out photos that showcase this topic and glue them onto your posterboard. It will probably be fun to be in the same room, but have enough space that you can’t see what the other is cutting out. At the end, present your vision board. Maybe you have the same vision, or maybe you’re surprised by what the other chose, sparking a conversation to understand each other more completely. There is no wrong answer, just new information that can only lead to a better connection.
The Love Jar - Find a big mason jar and put it somewhere you both will see regularly. Once per day, put a note in the jar describing something the other did that made you feel loved. Each night, gently remind each other if they accidentally forget (which is bound to unintentionally happen). After a month, take out the pieces of paper and read them out loud to one another. We often get so swept up in our days we don’t even notice little acts of love when they’re happening. They may not be obvious, they might be subtle, so be on the lookout. Added bonus: as you're doing this, you’ll also be re-training your brain to look for the positive side of your partner because you know you need to write something for the jar each day. Soon enough, you’ll be organically looking for the good acts the other does, rather than focusing on the bad moments. After you and your partner hear about what acts made the other feel loved, you’ll know the best ways to show each other more love in the future.
Final Libra Takeaways
Libras thrive with relationships, and as humans, connection is critical to our health and happiness. But not all relationships are created equal, and being able to determine which ones should remain in our lives versus those we should part with is an important skill. Quality is better than quantity. Many relationships can be brought back into a balanced state with a little time and attention, but some have run their course. If you’ve determined there are a few you need to let drift away, be grateful for what they brought to your life at one time as you say goodbye. Now you’ll have even more time to dedicate to those deserving relationships. This Libra season, expect the best of yourself and those closest to you. With a little time and attention, your relationship equilibrium will be balanced, and you’ll be thriving.
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